year we promise ourselves to do
something – quit smoking, be thin or
call our mother more often. We
always dream of changing ourselves
for the better. Some grown up and
rather wise women even write their
promises on paper, burn the paper
and swallow it while drinking
champagne, at the strike of a clock.
And they do this not because they
are naïve, but want to finally
fulfill the things they’ve been
dreaming. Everyday we do morning
exercises, throw cigarettes to a
dust bin and smile to an ugly
neighbor kindheartedly. However,
very soon, good intentions come to a
stop and very soon you are back to
old ways. It almost seems like
somebody is preventing us from
realizing our plans purposely or is
ONE FROM REALIZATION OF DREAMS?
Lack of small
a person is in good mood, his heart,
liver and lungs work better. Happy
people fall ill lesser, than unhappy
ones, as when you’re content, your
body produces more antibodies.The
result: when you feel good, your
immunity rises. The more small
pleasures you have in life, the more
power you get for great
fulfillments. Of course, everyone
has his own definition of pleasures.
One might be happy because of
chocolate or just sipping champagne,
others because of spare 30 minutes
spent with family, and yet another a
walk in a snow-covered forest. This
is not to say that you should forget
about working days and turn your
life into constant pleasure: if you
have too many pleasant emotions,
pleasure is reduced. You should have
everything in harmony – both work
Sense of guilt
You’re running round in small
circles, trying to do everything.
Work, home, lessons with children,
and there’re also your beloved
husband’s shirts to be ironed…
You’re tired, many women feel guilty
of relaxing when chores are not
done. Pleasure turns into something
forbidden and shameful. Often good
intentions break down because of
this. Life cannot consist only of
responsibilities, there should be
also pleasant moments in it. Not
only should you say “I must”,
but also “I want”. And if you deny
yourself this, then your love for
chocolate as pleasure will turn into
eating for guilt.
What one needs to do...
• Invent some everyday ritual. For
example, before going to bed, drink
some squeezed juice while reading a
• Find several spare minutes, when
you can do nothing, but just
dreaming, relaxing in a tub.
• Don’t dismiss some pleasures that
happen by themselves. If your school
friend called you or you noticed a
beautiful sunset, rejoice over it.
• Smile to people you’re talking to.
• Spend as much time as you can with
your loved ones.
• Play with your children, hold your
husband’s hand. And say them how you
• When you go to bed, remind the
most pleasant thing that happened
during the day.
• And rejoice over it again.
• Spend one evening a week going to
a theatre, have a walk after dinner.
Or just leave dirty plates and
dishes for the morning, and devote
spare 30 minutes to yourself.
• Visit beautiful places, church,
interesting museum or even City
• If usual aerobics seems boring for
you, try something new and unusual:
belly dance, samba or swimming.
• Devote several hours to your
appearance. have a massage or
• Go shopping, buy something
pleasant for you. Celebrate new
beginnings, quit smoking, learn how to swim.
• Change your routine. Go to a
country place on the weekend or go
for an excursion to some other city
• Plan a valuable, 2 week vacation
at the minimum.
• Invent and realize a birthday
surprise for your loved one. Create
gifts that are meaningful and
• Meet friends and relatives who
live far away from you.
should have both responsibilities
and pleasures in life, to be able
realize dreams successfully!
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